“What are we doing?”
“…Is this reeeeeeally what the Lord wants us to do?”
Those were just a few of the questions I asked myself while we were going through the foster parenting classes a little over 4 years ago.
Jeremy and I (Alison) are both teachers. After a few years of witnessing so many sad home lives, as well as being interviewed by DCS every so often regarding student issues, God laid it upon our hearts to prayerfully consider becoming foster parents. I say ‘consider’. We thought we would be in control of when and how we were to pursue this new endeavor, but when we began to feel that we were being disobedient to God by not moving forward, we started to take things more seriously. But how would our families accept this drastic choice? We already had two young children (yes, people thought we were out of our minds for wanting to foster). Their well-being had to take precedence over what may lay ahead of us. God faithfully took care of that worry. The peace that God gives you when you are in His will is like nothing you have ever felt before. All the questions and ‘what ifs’ began to fade away as we began this beautiful and crazy journey with Him.
We were ‘that couple’ in the foster parenting classes that didn’t want a newborn baby or even a toddler. We wanted teenagers. Eeeeek! We knew that with a 3 year old and a newborn, this was the right age group for us (it helped that by that time, Jeremy had worked several years at Science Hill’s alternative school). Nonetheless, we were now making ourselves vulnerable enough to allow one of those children into our home, where they would see our not-so-pretty side. We got our first foster daughter in August of 2010. She was 15 and needed a family. She needed to be guided and she needed to see Jesus. To this day, we remain in close contact, and our children still refer to her as one of their sisters.
Our second teen was ‘Big Ben’. He was 16 and is a gentle giant. He is still to this day my son’s best friend. Ben has often been referred to as ‘Blindside’ as the similarities between him and the hero of the sports movie, Blindside, are unbelievably close. He came to us in the summer of 2011 and stayed with us until we moved to South Carolina in 2012. When Ben came to us, he was quiet, timid, angry, confused, and did not know Jesus. Ben is now outgoing, playful, and knows who his creator is. We talk several times a week, and the best part is when my son Brady introduces Big Ben to his friends as his ‘brother’ without skipping a beat. I just love to watch his friends’ eyes grow as big as saucers. Melts my heart!
We just want our lives to look, feel, and be different. We want our lives to be like Jesus’. He never said it would be easy. Nowhere in the Bible did it say that doing the will of God is a walk in the park.,I take the rough days and those moments when I feel like I can’t be stretched further outside of my comfort zone and I look to God to give me patience and perspective for these children, who have no Mommy to talk to about their day or no Daddy to guide them in how to become a man of God. I take time to look at the amazing gifts He has bestowed to our family during this time. I can’t imagine how drastically different our lives would be if we hadn’t said ‘yes’ when everything around us told us ‘no’…and for that, my heart is forever grateful that we did.
Posted on Tue, February 11, 2014
by Alison Bosken filed under