Before we began attending GFC's Merge Pre-Marital Class, we had few expectations. We were excited that it was going to be grounded in Biblical teaching but didn’t know much more about what to expect. It didn’t take long before we realized God had much more in store for us. We really enjoyed our first session and looked forward to the rest of the classes. We were even excited about doing the homework!
As we dove deeper into the class, we began to develop wonderful relationships with other couples. Steve and Wendy were great leaders, and we learned so much from the personal experiences they shared each week. They taught us so much about what God intends for marriage and why He has those intentions. We grew to really respect them as a couple. Both of them worked so hard to make the sessions worthwhile. We always felt comfortable asking questions and discussing different topics.
One of the most beneficial portions was our small group sessions. Our small group leaders, Paul and Jan, were another model for a successful marriage. We would meet with them and another young couple right after our large group session with Steve and Wendy. We really liked that Paul and Jan did the homework with us, and they made us feel completely comfortable asking or discussing anything we wanted. We often got into deep discussions and our group was almost always the last to leave for the night. The conversation flowed so easily! Paul and Jan were very wise in their advice and often shared personal stories of how they handled the highs and lows of their marriage. It was easy to connect with the other young couple in our group, also. Many of our experiences were similar, but we also had some different point of views to share.
The third component of Merge that we thoroughly enjoyed was the homework. From the beginning, we settled into a routine where we did the homework privately, and then on the nights before our class, we discussed it. While some of the topics were very personal and hard to talk about, we gained a much deeper understanding of ourselves and each other. Even though we had been together almost 3 years, we quickly found that there was still much to learn about each other. We even surprised each other at times with our answers! Though we’d never had a problem talking to each other, Merge gave us an opportunity to talk about things we had never had.
We can’t say enough about our amazing experience. We learned how to communicate openly, how to have the right kind of argument, and how to handle our finances together. We also learned how to listen, respect, and honor each other the way God intended. Most importantly, we learned that if we keep God in the center of our marriage and strive to always grow closer to Him together, everything else will fall into place. Since our class, we’ve started praying together every night, an idea we got from another Merge couple. Both of us look forward to it, and it reminds us of just how much we are blessed to have each other. We were a strong couple before taking the Merge class, but afterwards, we are much stronger. The class really solidified our decision to get married, and we know now that we are truly prepared. Life will be difficult at times, but God has given us the right tools to handle whatever comes our way.
Chad and Sara Spence
Married June 27, 2015
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Posted on Tue, September 1, 2015
by Grace Fellowship Church