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05-12-13-Communicating Heart to Heart


Take full responsibility for your words.

Limit your vocabulary – choose your words carefully.

Purify your motives – speak from your heart.


Family Life in HD: Communicating Heart to Heart

Ephesians 4:29

Complexities of communication in a family are immense! We may never be able to untangle the web of personalities and motives that shape conversations. But we can take ownership of our own words. Just think of the potential impact for positive change if we trust the Lord as our source of life and security, so that we might speak healing words from a pure heart to others in our family.
Thinking It Through
Trust is the most essential ingredient in effective communication.
~Robert Valentine

Constantly talking isn’t necessarily communicating.
~Charlie Kaufman

You cannot talk to people successfully if they think you are not interested in what they have to say or you have no respect for them.
~Larry King

Google before you tweet.
~Sydney Rogers

Living It Out
1. Describe the communication patterns in your family of origin. What have you learned from them?

2. Why is it so hard to speak from our heart? What are the obstacles we face in speaking to another’s heart?

3. What is the role of eye contact, focused attention and listening in healthy communication?

4. How do we discern “according to the need of the moment” as we seek to communicate well?


Family Life in HD
Caution: Families at Work
Romans 8:28-29

We all know family-life is anything but easy. At various times it can be beautiful, frustrating, painful, joyful, hopeful, trying, worrisome, fun, and incredibly complex. Underneath all these layers of emotion, God is up to something in your life. Have you ever thought about how God might be using the joys and frustrations of your family-life to do His transformative work in you?

Looking It Up

1. Read Romans 8:28-29. Write down one or two emotions that come to mind as you read these verses. Do they give you a sense of hope? Comfort? Encouragement?

2. Make some observations about the words in the text. Which words or phrases stand out to you as particularly important? Make a list of the verbs in these two verses. Does anything stand out to you about this list?

3. What kind of picture of God do these verses portray? Is He active or passive? Involved or distant? Loving or detached? Proactive or reactive? Purposeful or random?

4. Verse 28 teaches that “God causes all things to work together for good…” How might this statement apply to circumstances in your family-life right now?

5. What do you think the “good” is that Paul is pointing to? In other words, what might the purpose be that God is working toward in your life? (Hint: consider the context of verse 29).

6. How has God used your family (whatever that has looked like throughout your life) as a part of the process of making you more like Jesus?

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